For centuries, women have been told their place was in the home. But let’s be real the energy of the home wasn’t soft, flowing, feminine energy. It was masculine overdrive: structure, schedules, protection, and constant doing.
And honestly? That’s been the story of our society, too.
We’ve lived through the Victorian Age (1837–1901), where women were silenced, sexuality was repressed, and morality and restraint were everything.
We moved into the Industrial Age (1760s–1940s), nearly 180 years of factories, machines, mass production. Hustle. Grind. Worth = how much you produce.
Then came the Information Age (1970s to now). Computers, the internet, 24/7 connection. Work smarter instead of harder, sure but still always on, always producing, still another form of burnout.
And now? We are moving into what I call the Age of Consciousness.
This is the shift we are feeling in our bones: away from relentless doing and into deeper being. Away from distrust and competition, into balance and embodiment.
Masculine Energy: Wounded vs. Healthy
Masculine energy isn’t the enemy. We need it. It’s structure, direction, presence, protection.
But when it’s wounded, it looks like:
- Domination and control
- Overwork, hustle, burnout
- Suppressing emotions
- Aggression, disconnection, hyper-competitiveness
When it’s healthy, it’s:
- Stability and clarity
- Leadership rooted in service
- Action that’s purposeful and aligned
- A safe container for the feminine to flow
Feminine Energy: Wounded vs. Healthy
The feminine, too, has her shadow side. Wounded feminine shows up as:
- Gossip, jealousy, manipulation
- Comparison and competition
- Drama and chaos
- Self-abandonment and over-giving
But in her healthy form, the feminine is pure medicine:
- Intuition and inner knowing
- Creativity, play, and expression
- Sensuality and unapologetic pleasure
- Compassion, nurturing, and deep presence
- Collaboration, lifting others while rising together
My Three Stories
In Episode 10 of Embodied Living, I share three stories that illustrate these energies:
✨ Rest Is Bad → How I learned that slowing down meant failure, and how masculine overdrive shaped my life.
✨ Girl Scouts at 11 → The bullying that planted seeds of distrust in women and showed me the toxic side of feminine energy.
✨ The Women’s Retreat → Where I finally experienced the healthy feminine in action: compassion, collaboration, and sisterhood.
Each of these stories is a reminder that wounded energy is not who we truly are. It’s conditioning. It’s survival mode. And we don’t live in that world anymore.
The Collective Shift: The Age of Consciousness
We are entering a new age, one where the masculine and feminine no longer compete, but dance together.
The masculine provides structure and safety. The feminine brings creativity and flow. Together, they create wholeness.
This is what embodied sexuality is about. It’s not just intimacy in the bedroom, it’s about the way we live, love, create, and show up in the world. We are letting go of the need to constantly produce, prove, and overdo. We are remembering the power of being as much as doing.
We are stepping into the Age of Consciousness. And that’s how we rise.
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Reflection Prompt
Where do you still distrust your feminine?
Where do you still distrust your masculine?
What would it look like to invite the healthy versions of both back into your life?
Where do you still distrust your masculine?
What would it look like to invite the healthy versions of both back into your life?
Want to go deeper? Listen to Episode 10 of the Embodied Living podcast: From Hustle to Embodiment: Why Feminine Energy Matters Now.
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Embodied Rituals to Start Your Day
Mornings used to feel like a race for me. I’d wake up before my alarm, already tired, already thinking about everything I “had” to do, not what I wanted to do. I’d start mentally sorting through the messages waiting to be checked, the unfinished to-do lists, and the workout I’d promised myself I’d start “tomorrow.” Halfway through my day, I’d realize I hadn’t taken a single breath for me. Everything I did was for everyone else, and I was running on autopilot.
That’s when it hit me, I couldn’t keep living in that loop of waking up tired, opening my laptop and mindlessly getting shit done. No purpose, no real intention, just pushing through. I needed a morning practice that supported me, something that eased me into my day instead of throwing me into it. And honestly, they aren’t really “routines.” They’re small love notes I offer myself, reminders that I exist beyond productivity.
Some mornings I still forget. Some mornings I’m absolutely messy. But every time I choose me first, the rest of the day unfolds differently. I show up with conviction, choosing what’s best for me before I take on the world. When my health and my well-being lead the day, everything else just flows with so much more ease.
Now, my mornings look completely different. I still wake up before my alarm, and yes, I always check my phone to see if one of my kids has texted me. Staying connected to them matters so much to me, especially now that they’re adults and living their own lives. Then I get on my Pilates reformer for about 30 minutes, letting my body wake up with movement that actually feels good. After that, I sit down for a mindful breakfast with my partner, who usually makes it for us. Those quiet, shared moments mean more than I ever realized they could. Music is next and it’s one of my non-negotiables. It’s such an important part of my feminine energy. I sing, I dance around a little and I let it pull me back into myself. Then it’s shower, makeup and hair. I know this about myself, when I feel put together and professional, I work better. It shifts something in me, like I am stepping into the day with intention instead of stumbling into it. Once I’m ready, I make myself a cup of green or black tea with raspberry, my favorite fruit, and sit down at my computer feeling grounded, nourished and fully present for my day. These rituals set the mood for everything that follows. They remind me that when I honor myself first, I show up to the world in a completely different way.
Embodied Ritual List
Slow Wake-Up. - Before anything else, I press my hand to my heart and take a breath. It’s my way of saying, “Hey you, welcome back.”
Move Like You Mean It. - One song, one stretch or one moment of shaking out what’s stuck. It wakes up more than just my muscles.
Sip With Intention. - My tea becomes a moment of grounding rather than something I rush through.
Mirror Moments. - I look myself in the eyes and say something kind. It still feels vulnerable and it’s powerful.
Set the Tone, Not the Tasks. - I ask myself how I want to feel today, and I let the doing come from that.
These aren’t things I check off a list, they’re touch points that bring me home to myself. They’re reminders that the world doesn’t need a more efficient version of me. It needs the real, present, embodied me. When you start your day from your body instead of your calendar, you stop chasing alignment and start living it. One breath, one sip, one song at a time.
Integration
Integration is where the real magic settles in. These rituals aren’t about perfection and they aren’t meant to be one more thing you have to get right. They are invitations, small moments of truth that pull you back into yourself in a world that constantly demands your attention, your energy, and your emotional labor. Some days you may move through your ritual with ease and other days you might be rushing out the door with your hair halfway done and your tea cooling on the counter. Both days count. Both versions of you are still worthy of care.
What matters is the energy you bring to returning to yourself. That pause before the world gets loud, that breath you take before you open your inbox, that moment in the mirror when you soften into your own reflection, that is integration.
This is where you shift from performing to being. This is where you stop bracing for the day and start welcoming it.
To deepen this reflection, I come back to this question often and I want to offer it to you:
“Where in your life am I still performing instead of being?”
Let it be a gentle inquiry, not a judgment. Let it guide you closer to what feels true. When these rituals become part of your morning, they start to reshape how you live, how you love and how you move through your day. You stop reacting to life and begin creating it from your center, and life meets you with more softness and alignment because of it.
You deserve mornings that nourish you. You deserve to start your day with presence instead of pressure. And you deserve to remember, every single morning, that you get to choose yourself.
These rituals aren’t just habits I do, they’re commitments I make to myself. They remind me that my energy matters, my presence matters and the way I begin my day shapes everything that follows. When I choose myself first, the rest of my life doesn’t fall apart, it actually falls into place.
I want that for you too.
Imagine starting your morning connected to your body, your breath and your truth. Imagine a life where you’re not racing through your day, but moving with intention, with clarity, with softness and with power.
You don’t need to overhaul your life, you just need small, sacred moments. A breath, a song, a sip of tea, a hand on your heart. Come back to yourself, every morning, in whatever way you can.
That is where embodiment begins, that is where confidence lives, and that is where you remember who you are.
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Let this be your next step in choosing yourself, with softness and intention.
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