Or maybe believed femininity was about having the right outfits, flawless makeup, and perfect hair?
Yeah… I did too. For years, that was my definition of femininity: an image. A performance.
Yeah… I did too. For years, that was my definition of femininity: an image. A performance.
Meanwhile, underneath all that? I was living in my masculine energy 24/7 - task-oriented, structured, in control of everything because honestly, that felt safe. And let’s be real, the world rewards it. Hustle hard, achieve more, do more. Sound familiar?
But here’s the truth: Feminine energy isn’t about what you wear. It’s not about perfection. It’s an energy. A way of being. And most of us? We’ve been taught to suppress it, twist it, or hide it altogether.
In this episode, I’m getting raw and real about what it means to reclaim your feminine essence and why so many of us have lost touch with it.
Why Feminine Energy Has Been Suppressed
We live in one of the most masculine-driven cultures in the world. The U.S. thrives on competition, achievement, and independence. It glorifies hustle. It worships productivity. And in that world? Feminine energy gets labeled as weak, emotional, or worse, dangerous.
We’ve been told:
❌ Cover up, because men can’t control themselves.
❌ Don’t be too emotional, or you’re unstable.
❌ If you want success, you better hustle like hell.
Meanwhile, emotional intelligence, the very thing they mocked us for, is now the #1 leadership skill companies are desperate to teach. Let that sink in.
Your femininity is not a liability. Your feelings are not a flaw. Your body is not an invitation for someone else’s lack of self-control.
My Story: Masculine-Masked with Cuteness
For years, I thought femininity was an accessory to my hustle. I believed I had to overplay my masculine traits; organization, control, time management, to be respected in business. And then? I sprinkled on lipstick, cute outfits, and perfectly styled hair to look feminine enough.
I didn’t realize then that I was disconnected from the real power of my feminine energy. I thought it was something external. I was wrong.
What I’ve learned? I don’t have to choose. I get to integrate both. My masculine gives me structure. My feminine gives me creativity, intuition, and flow. Together? That’s where the magic is.
The Awakening
In 2008, everything changed. I went on a women’s retreat in Costa Rica (side note: go if you ever get the chance). For the first time, I experienced feminine energy as safe. Women hugged me without judgment. They supported me without an agenda.
I left with a hunger to understand masculine and feminine energy. I studied David Deida. I dove into Alison Armstrong’s work. And here’s what I discovered: feminine energy isn’t weakness. It’s power. Not loud, not forceful—but magnetic, life-giving, and deeply wise.
How to Start Reclaiming Your Feminine Essence
This isn’t about rejecting your masculine side. It’s about harmony. When you integrate both, doubt dissolves. Confidence rises. Here’s how you start:
✨ Slow down. The feminine can’t thrive in a rush.
✨ Drop into your body. Put on music, breathe, move your hips.
✨ Feel before you act. Ask: “What would feel nourishing right now?”
✨ Add pleasure to your day. Light a candle, savor your coffee, touch your skin with love.
The feminine doesn’t need to prove. She knows. And when she knows, the doubt fades.
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